Sexuality can be a sensitive and sometimes challenging area in all of our lives. And at the same time, it is an area where we mainly must discover ourselves. The following elements are crucial to get a handle on if you want to experience more of what you desire.
The Impact of a Good Relationship
First and foremost, it's a great idea to actively work towards having a satisfying sex life throughout your life. Simply because it's healthy and triggers the release of endorphins, which provide us with well-being and joy. Being intimate together also strengthens our feelings of love for each other.
Frequency and How
One of the important areas to clarify is the frequency. For some, being intimate once a month works well, while others prefer to have sex every day to feel satisfied. Some like to stick to the same routines in bed, while others want to experiment and try new positions, places, toys, methods.
Tell What You Like
A third factor for having a good sex life is telling your partner what you like. This can immediately become somewhat challenging because we have never learned to talk openly about sex. Many feel it's embarrassing to discuss sex, while others believe sex should just work without talking about it. Some don't even feel like asking for what they want because they think true love means the partner should sense their desires. But sadly, none of us are mind readers.
Since we've never learned to talk openly, respectfully, and playfully about sex, it means we have to practice this ability. So first, you need to practice it yourself.
Experiment with What You Like
The first step is to find out what it is you truly desire. Half of the battle is knowing what you're looking for. Set aside an hour without distractions, and browse the internet, searching for things that pique your curiosity. (For example read our previous blog post!)
You can be 100% certain that you are not the only one looking for this knowledge. If you feel like you're finding the wrong things, try using different search words. After spending an hour on it, you'll find something that arouses you. And remember, nobody needs to know what truly turns you on. This is solely for your personal use.
Once you become a bit braver about this and feel like you're done crawling and can stand on your own two feet, you can start asking your partner to do the things you like. Be as specific as possible. But don't forget to ask if your partner enjoys those things too, or if there's a need for adjustments. It's up to the two of you to decide what you want to do, try, or come back to.
Intimate and Close
You'll experience that these questions are essential steps in a process that brings you closer to each other and fills you both with joy. It can be intimate, close, and exciting.
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