Do you know what turns you on? Is it romance, fantasy or fetish?… Or something completely different? Maybe you are even more cheeky than we are? This quick test can show you!
One thing is for sure: knowing your erotic language is a straight path to bringing more energy and pleasure into your life. Our team loves to give a well needed boost to your physical, mental and sexual energy, and that's why we created an easy and clear erotic guide for you! And you know what the best part is? You can read it in two minutes and it can change your life! We know, it sounds a bit too good to be true, but we mean it!
And just so you know that we’re not talking gibberish, the guide is based on Denmark's well-known sexologist Joan Ørting's book, "The 5 erotic languages". If you don't have a partner right now, you can still use the knowledge of your erotic language(s) to prepare for your next adventure!
The 5 erotic languages are as follows:
1. Sex fantasies
If you’re part of this group, it means you’re turned on by words, images, moods and feelings you have in your mind. You stimulate your brain with internal images that are so effective, powerful and strong that you can achieve climax/orgasm. You use your imagination and visualise what seems exciting to you.
Good questions to ask yourself to find out if "Sex Fantasies" is your language:
- Do you have to use a sex fantasy when you masturbate in order to have an orgasm?
- Are you fond of sexy underwear and sexy clothes?
- Are you turned on by "dirty talk"?
- Do you long for the sex you have with your partner to be a lot more naughty than it is?
2. Body and senses
If you have “Body and senses” as your language, for you the ecstasy is in the skin and body. When skin meets skin. You are highly sensual. For you, appreciative touches and caresses are way more important than verbal ones. Touches must feel right and natural.
Good questions to ask yourself to find out if "Body and senses" is your language:
- Does it matter to you what your partner's voice and scent is like?
- Are you longing for more touch and experiencing a slight skin hunger?
- Do you care if your partner is good at touching you?
- If you are single, do you sometimes compromise yourself because you need physical contact?
3. Polarity
Polarity is the erotic energy between the masculine and feminine sides. It is the attraction that creates tension and vica-versa. For you it's the delightful sensation of feeling masculine or feminine that seems tantalising. You are energy-sensitive and at your best when you feel sexual attraction.
Good questions to ask yourself to find out if "Polarity" is your language:
- Do you enjoy feeling either feminine or masculine?
- Are you into feeling energy?
- Do you like to flirt and play with eye contact?
- Are you more into "love" than "porn"?
4. Fetishes and Kinks
You like to play with roles that revolve around dominance and power/powerlessness. Sexual attraction can happen towards a material (leather, rubber), an object, body part or an article of clothing (suspenders). It's about pushing boundaries and getting away from the normal.
Good questions to ask yourself to find out if "Fetish and Kinks" is your language:
- Do you particularly enjoy e.g. lingerie, role play uniforms or rubber clothes?
- Are you bored with normal "in and out" sex?
- Are you attracted to erotic subcultures?
- Are you turned on by someone watching you when you have sex?
5. Romance
If you have romance as your language, your spark will light up in your heart – and in the enamoured eyes of your chosen one. You need to feel connected before going to bed with your date. Presence is crucial. The pleasure lies in the tenderness, and a position where you can have eye contact is the best. If there is no presence, it can almost hurt the romantic type.
Good questions to ask yourself to find out if "Romance" is your language:
- Do you believe you have a soul mate?
- Are you into hygge?
- Is the post-sex cuddle important to you?
- Do you prefer the word "love" to "bang" or "fuck"?
Did you find your erotic language? Good erotica is the way to more life energy.
As sexologist Joan Ørting (who wrote the book "The 5 erotic languages") says, we will all most likely have a main erotic language and in addition one or two other languages that we use in between.
Do you want to know more? And do you read Danish? Then we suggest you read "De 5 erotiske sprog" by Joan Ørting/Forlaget Lindhardt og Ringhof. It is a super good inspiration! And while reading, you can also drink a glass of XO® to get into the mood even more!