Pamper your partner

How well do you know your partner? Do you know what makes him/her/they/it feel wanted? Or loved? Or safe? Does your partner know it?

Write these words on a separate note, or draw it. Also make some blank notes. Place all the notes on the table in front of both of you:

• kiss & hug
• spoon
• caress the neck
• an unexpected compliment
• praise
• a smile
• that what I tell is remembered
• that you fix something we need fixed
• to have a good dinner together
• that you are arranging a surprise
• that we do something together
• that the foreplay functions as a foreplay
• that you are wearing sexy lingerie
• that you are naked
• that I'm naked with you,
• that we talk before we have sex
• that you notice I have a new haircut
• that you take care of me
• that you care for me
• that you take the initiative to sex
• Use the blank notes to write your very own words on.

Look at them all. Then choose 3-5 words each that signal security and feeling safe to you. Tell about the words you have chosen and why. Then switch and ask your partner to explain the chosen words. Then choose words that describe when you each feel loved and talk about this. Finally, you can choose words that signal desire to each of you and talk about them.

Finish this exersize by going to bed together and continue the talk - or whatever you feel like doing :-)

XO Your Love Life®