If we go back to ancient Greece, we find the philosopher Aristippus from Cyrene. He saw pleasure as the highest good. He even believed that man acted only to obtain pleasure. The Greek word for lust is "hedone", and people who only strive for pleasure are called hedonists to this day.
In a culturally Christian society like the Danish one, we feel a bit apprehensive about this, even a bit hesitant about the whole concept of enjoyment. We do not respect if enjoyment is the primary guiding principle in your life, because where is your sense of duty in this? Maybe that's why it has taken us so many years to be able to talk about enjoyment using precise words and concepts, to feel proud of our enjoyment in the many forms it can come, and to set boundaries for the enjoyment of others, when it does not match our own.
At INXO, we think we live in really exciting times, since we no longer have to reject the enjoyment or indulge in it uninhibitedly without looking at the consequences. Many studies have been made on enjoyment, desire and lust. Reports of people who have not understood boundaries have emerged. So ample knowledge proves how little we know about the enjoyment of others. The only thing we definitely know is, that it is different from our own experience, so you ask before touching.
At the same time, the intimate life has become a topic more and more people can address. Many young people experiment and explore desire. They try out different sexual toys, they discuss their sexual experiences, they explore their own desire and challenge norms and concepts. These tendencies are likely to spread to other generations.
When you start exploring your own and others' desires, one of the first things you find out is that others do not feel what you feel. What one thought was the recipe for desire leaves the other cold or uninterested. If you go too far with your own desire, you learn that it is a no go. So, the more you want to experiment, the more important it becomes to be able to say no and set boundaries for what does not feel good. There will always be a risk of ruining the good mood. But mature people know that it can be rebuilt, so there is room for that.
All this points to how complex a process good sex is. The experience itself is affected by where we are when the desire is lived out. How we felt before it started and what to do after. Where we are in life. The physical spot where it happens. We are also affected by the relationship we have with the person or people we are having sex with and how that relationship is right now. Is it longing and playful, or comforting and life-giving or does it feel pretty much like the last time you had sex? Is the relationship brand new, or 30 years old? How do we feel about ourselves and our body? And how did the seduction happen? Was there a foreplay at all, and was it good? And how does everything that happens with the desire match the imprints that culture and upbringing have created in our minds? Do we feel guilty about indulging in pleasure or do we rejoice in it? Or do we actually enjoy feeling guilty and that speeds up the desire?
The possibilities are many, and therefore desire can be a complicated affair. To contribute to a good experience for both parties, we recommend having a drink with XO® approx. 45 min. you want to experience the desire. Then you’re ready for a great sexual enhancement.
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